Alot of the general Quotations that I am writing are coming directly from my program... "The Attacking Anxiety and Depression Program." If in the next few weeks you are noticing that your way of life is being bettered by these activities and my blogs please contact me, I would love to get you set up with a Trial of this program that you can try in your own home. Kaseymelissa123@hotmail.com
As some of you might know I am working at a new job... it is called Mid West Center for Stress and Anxiety... This job has opened up an opportunity to try the program that I am selling to others and 1/10th of the total price that everyone pays... Well needless to say I am very excited to be able to use this program in my life and be able to not only benefit my friends and immediate contacts but be able to benefit anyone that is willing to take the time to listen (read my blogs) and want to put forth an effort... Today I was reading about ways to putting our negative thoughts and feelings behind us...Focusing on our Strengths and not to fear the thought of potential Failure... I want to go into a little bit more detail on a few of these and then I am going to give you a couple of examples of activities you can try to help boost your moods and your self esteem.
There are 5 types of Negative Thinking...
1.All or Nothing thinking... This type of thinking is usually drastic measures that people take... For example... Someone that maybe had a bad day at the office is going to feel that their entire day is shot with no chance of happiness because of one mistake or mishap that could have happened 10 hours
before.
2.Negative Predictions... Because of something in the past (an even that ended negatively) we assume everything that is associated with/ or is the same type of circumstance we automatically make a prediction that this too will turn out negative.
3.Filtering Information Negatively... Ex. Today at work I had 4 people tell me that I was so calming to them, I had a soothing voice and that I was trustworthy... I had 1 person that told me I was pushy and caused them more stress than before... Instead of listening to the 4 people that paid me great compliments I would usually let that 1 angry person who can barley handle his own life begin to run mine because his thoughts are the ones that are running through my head not the great compliments that I was given... WE NEED TO STOP THIS WAY OF THINKING!!!
4.Mind Reading... So I don't know about you but I don't own a crystal ball or a hippy over sized dress and some nappy hair, so I don't think I can read yo' mind. But that is what we do... WE read your mind, we see you talking quietly over there to someone and I am all knowin' that you are talking bad about me... You know what People, quit psyching yourself out... Most of the time they are not talking about you!!! And if they are O-WELL! Why waste your energy on worrying. Is that going to do you any good? NO!! Quick Story for you, On my second to last day at McDonald's I was running shift. I would occasionally walk back to the office to check labor or what not and I would see my bosses talking and they would abruptly stop as soon as I got within ears distance. I litterally made myself nauseous worrying about what they were saying about me and what I had done now to make them want to talk bad about me. Well come to find out after all the STRESS and WORRY that there was nothing to STRESS about. They were back there being secretive because they were all signing a farewell card for me... REALLY MELISSA!!! I wasted so much time and energy that day worrying about what I had done now, was it the way I looked, was it something I said... NO it was something good and I turned the WHOLE situation around and assumed the worst. Let's stop assuming the worst!
5. Fear of Failure...This way of thinking stems from the strong need for total acceptance from yourself and from others. We tend to set our self's up for a no win situation. Then when we fail, we feel disgraced, embarrassed and unworthy of respect. Fear of Failure is Fear of REJECTION!!! This fear of rejections prevents us from the possibilities of failure - decisions that result in jobs never taken, relationships never started, promotions never asked for, and independence NEVER ACHIEVED! The key is to FAIL successfully, to understand that falling short is always a possibility and to recognize that it is a part of life. You should never stop trying.. keep trying until you get it right! The only way you will ever get comfortable with rejection and failure is to expose yourself to it.
So when you try and you fail your pride might take a hit, but your self remains unchanged. You are still the same person with the same talents and abilities.
A lot of times we are not even FAILING we are making mistakes..Mistakes are opportunities for Growth and nothing more... Remember this... Room for improvement and nothing more... Get that in your brain... say it 100 times if you must... it is so important to know that it is OK to make mistakes, just learn from them!
Something that I want everyone to try is taking a little notebook for 1 day and making a little tick every time you think a negative thought... EVERY TIME! The average person not struggling with anxiety or depression has about 300 negative thoughts a DAY! 300!!! We really need to focus on getting back to just being happy.
After you have figured out your level of negativism by your amount of Checks in your little note pad I want you to take an hour out of you day and write down every negative thought you have.. Then I want you to replace them with a positive thought. If we can get into the habit of having our brain naturally do this our negative thoughts will begin to dwindle them self's. I am giong to give you an example of what I want you to do... and an example of what is not going to help.
Bad Example...
Today sucked............ Tommorow will be better.
*Why did today suck? What are YOU going to DO to make sure tommorow will be better?
Good Example...
Today was frustrating because I work a commision based job and I didn't make many sells today, it is the end of the pay period, so I didn't make much money and money is important...............I got two sells today that will go through on Friday and Saturday, that is great because I will start out next week/pay period with a fantastic conversion rate and I was able to help those two people get the help that they needed to break free of thier Depression. Good for me!
Ok... So no that we are all on information OVERLOAD!! I would really like some positive participation because I care for all of you and I want us all to be as happy as we can. So what I would like to see is I want everyone to post there favorite... Negative to Postive statement either here on my post or if you would rather you can Email them to me.. kaseymelissa123@hotmail.com . I hope that this can really help and I look forward to the feed back! Look forward to more helpful tips and activities to obtain the healthiest happiest life. You can also check out my blog.. (Bunce's Blog of Healthy Living) @ http://buncesblogofhealthyliving.blogspot.com/! Thanks Everyone and have a GREAT WEEKEND!
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